Imagine you’re on a date, when the perfect thing you set yourself up to do goes awry. The restaurant you wanted to visit is closed early when you arrive, or it starts raining and you can’t go hiking like you planned.
What do you do in this situation? Just call it a day and rain-check?
No. You improvise.
You come up with new plans. If the restaurant you visit is closed, you go on Google or Yelp to find another interesting restaurant nearby. If it’s raining, you plan a movie marathon inside with hot cocoa instead.
Whether it’s your date, or your boss, or your coworkers or your friends, people are counting on you to adapt to the situation. They’re looking to you to step up to the plate and come up with new ideas should the old ones fail.
So what if that great idea you came up doesn’t work in practice. You have more ideas. So you have to use them and learn how to adapt. You have to accept that life is going to tell you no — even when you really want things.
It’s all about reframing the past as an opportunity for the future.
Getting used to being told no when you wanted yes is a life-skill that will make you indispensable in the workplace and in life. People want to work with and be around people who know how to deal with setbacks and adapt to new situations with new variables.