You Can't Have It All At Once (Q1 Reflections)

I've previously written about my goal-setting strategy in the past.

Summed up, I do this:

  • At the beginning of each quarter, plan SMART goals out in 3-month increment.
  • Assign tasks or habits that I can do on a daily basis to contribute towards goals (The 20-Mile March).
  • Evaluate progress with accountability partner on week-by-week basis.
  • Reflect on past quarter by last week of sprint (Week 13, which is this week for me).

Here's an excerpt from my reflection for Q1:

Photo by  Ali Inay  on  Unsplash

Photo by Ali Inay on Unsplash

What were the 3 biggest lessons you learned this Q1?

1. You can’t have social goals and feel really accomplished.

Most social goals are uncontrollable and not satisfying when you complete. Because what you want most is connection, and that is impossible to control with the many random variables of life. For example, you may want to talk to five random people every day, and although you will reach this goal, you may find that completing the goal in itself doesn't make you feel any better. However, simply choosing to start a conversation with anyone on your path as a life principle rather than a numbers-oriented goal will make you feel as if good things are happening to you on autopilot.

2. Don’t try to track everything.

There are some things that you must focus on and spend all of your bandwidth on making successful, and others you must accept the consequences of less focus. You have to accept the shitstorm of other things being okay, while you excel in a few select areas — else you risk mediocrity in all areas. Be careful with this because sometimes the things you track become less fun.

3. You have a strength of health goals and social goals if you set up the right infrastructure. You need to set up the same system for your work life.

This past quarter, I was easily training and eating right - I had a powerlifting coach leading most of my training, and I simply had to follow it. College has made social life a lot easier this year compared to last year on the road in Chicago to Houston. Easier to go on autopilot. Now you just need to cultivate that discipline with your work — I know it’s hard, but you have to create focus periods and endure in order to become great and provide the right life for you and your family in the future.

Hope you enjoyed that sneak peak into my reflection on my top 3 lessons I've learned this past quarter on goal-setting!

Next post, I will talk about my top 3 wins for Q1!