College was one of the sadder times in my life.
Now don’t get me wrong, I made a lot of cool friends there and got to experience some awesome football games, with events all week long.
But the lifestyle promoted all of the wrong behaviors.
I started building really bad habits.
Here’s why I think being in college really hurt me.
You’re often living on someone’s dime.
Parents are often the ones paying for the MAJORITY of their kid’s college tuition. That means that while they feel the pain of $40k a year, you feel no sting at all.
If you’re actually conscious of that fact, then you feel guilty whenever you go out to eat, party, or do something that’s not studying. You start to feel like you “owe” your next 4 years to your parents.
You enslave yourself to the idea that you have to find your passion or you’re a big fat failure.
You still have to deal with cliques and old ways of thought.
Through 12 years of schooling, people are tricked into believing that a good GPA matters. When they base their sense of self-worth off of a number and other’s opinions of it, then their confidence is very fragile.
What do you do when you get a bunch of 18-year-olds with fragile confidence?
Get them to join Greek Life!
Fraternities and sororities, these relics of the past, have somehow continued to exist.
They’ll continue to party on someone else’s dime and create “exclusivity” based off of nothing but their parent’s money. And all under the guise of “leadership, tolerance, and brotherhood” and *insert other good-sounding value*.
I’m not saying they shouldn’t be allowed to exist, but there is so little sense with the ways these organizations are structured.
And that’s coming from me, someone who joined a fraternity.
You live in a vacuum of people who don’t know what they’re doing.
While it’s a fun peer group to bond over free pizza and cultural events with, almost everyone is at the same stage of life as you.
They often have no experience in the real world. With work, meeting people, or anything. All they’ve known is school.
So in this way, it becomes really hard to understand how the professional world works when your teachers haven’t been in the job market for years, you’re learning out-dated material, and you aren’t creating things in the real world.
It’s a perpetual cycle of “being prepared for a world that doesn’t exist”.
And the worst part is, you don’t feel anymore confident to take on the world before you started.
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Take everything I say here with a grain of salt, other people have found their college years amazing. But understand that there are cheaper and faster ways to get to where you want to be.