You hear a lot from people say they want to change, or say they want to do something new like working out or get a job for X or Y company. And when you give advice to them, even the EXACT STEPS on how to get what they want, they say things like:
"Oh yeah, that sounds like a great idea. I should do that. But I'm busy playing video games, with work, etc. I'll do that some other time."
Or "ah... that's a lot of work, I'll just push it off until later."
And they never proceed to just. Freaking. Doing. It.
They don't really want to change; they're too addicted to comfort.
They want to do exactly what they've been doing and hope that chance somehow gifts them the thing that they've been "wanting" so hard for. People don't want to change who they are or work for things. They just want to be handed the result on a silver platter.
These are the same people who don't want to work on their social skills; they'd rather take the chance that some girl or boy will magically just land face-first onto their crotches.
The same people who do the religious resume-tweaking that every other college student is doing, and thinking it will help them stand out and get that job.
The same people who want to be healthy, or ripped, or strong, yet they refuse to let go of their current diet of Big Macs and Mountain Dew.
I've figured out that we do this because we're so attached to our identities. We don't want to let go of who we think we are, because we don't want to lose what we already have. We build ourselves so strongly around one identity, that it doesn't allow us to change our hairstyle, start a new habit, or make new friends.
We say we want success, but we fear change and growth.
We fear doing things we don't normally do, the stuff outside of our comfort zone.
But if you ever want to be successful, you're going to have to take that leap. Outside of your comfort zone is where you grow and develop yourself. You don't grow by doing the same old things.
That's the legal definition of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result.
Of course, I've fallen into the trap too.
I've been guilty of taking a lot of action in little things that don't really matter. I've tried and dropped learning so many things I can't even remember all of them. I thought I was accomplishing a lot, but it was really me just procrastinating on the things that actually mattered.
For example, there's nothing inherently wrong with reading a lot of blogs on productivity. That's what I did for a long time (still kinda do to a lesser degree, it's an addiction). It's just that when that's ALL YOU DO, you don't actually start building the life that you want. You just inundate yourself with a bunch of noise.
It's easy to dabble into a lot of little things, but scary to just focus on that one MOST IMPORTANT thing.
That one thing we know will result in the most progress and change as a person.
What is that one thing for you?
Is it surrounding yourself with a new group of friends who think more like you?
Is it opting out of college to start a journey of self-discovery?
Is it developing your social skills for love, networking, and family?
Whatever your path is, if you destroy your addiction to comfort, you will grow exponentially in mind, body, and spirit.