How to Be a Rockstar Fraternity Brother

A band of brothers is only as good as the individuals who join it.

As a member of a fraternity, you need to identify why you joined the organization in the first place. Understanding your "why" is what will drive you in all of your collegiate pursuits. It will also motivate you to do everything in your power to make your fraternity the best it can be.

So what does it mean to be a rockstar fraternity brother?

In simple terms, it means making yourself great, in order to make the fraternity great.

But how do you go about in doing that?

Here are four ways that you can stand out as a fraternity brother, no matter your position or whether you are newly initiated or not.

1. Join at least one club and work towards attaining a leadership position.

The point is to delve deep into one of your passions and build a community around it. We want brothers who pursue their interests, interact with the communities they choose to associate with, and make the decision to lead these groups.

The people you meet in a fraternity are great, but if you're not constantly meeting new people and inviting them to learn about the fraternity, then you're not adding as much value to the fraternity as you could be.

A strong brotherhood is built by the relationships we make.

That's how we throw bigger parties, how we recruit more brothers, and how we attain more positive recognition from our peers, the university, and the National Chapter.

Besides, student clubs on campus are one of the fun things about being at college. So use it to meet new people, learn new things, and grow yourself as a person.

All of these things contribute towards you being a better brother.

2. Communicate with brothers and prove yourself as reliable.

Let me repeat a point I mentioned before: a strong brotherhood is built on relationships.

I want to specifically mention three types of relationships that are important for making a fraternity productive, meaningful, and enjoyable. These are the relationships between: 1) brothers and other brothers, 2) brothers and non-fraternity people, and 3) brothers and alumni.

Without healthy interaction in all of these three relationships, any fraternity will crumble in on itself. Make it a habit to regularly build these relationships up.

On the topic of communication, you must also work towards a building a culture of transparency.

One where you expect people to reply to your messages within 24 hours. One where you know what the status is of any given project at any given time. One where you know what funds are being spent and where.

Let e-board members know when you're dissatisfied with the fraternity. Keep your brothers in check. It is your duty as a human being, as a friend, and as a member of this organization to constantly be seeking improvement.

3. Take pride in the chapter house. Treat it with respect.

Your relationship with the house should be strong. This is where the fraternity eats, sleeps, works, and socializes. It's okay for the house to be disgusting on party weekends, but there's no reason to leave it in a perpetual state of disarray. The default status of the house should be clean.

Keep the house clean not only for yourself, but out of respect and empathy for your brothers. 

If alumni see that we don't even respect and appreciate our own space, what kind of message does that send them to how we value things? How can we expect them to help fundraise our efforts?

Taking pride in our chapter house means creating an environment that is welcome to all of the relationships in any brother's life. We want to create a space where we can invite classmates over to study during the week. A space where girlfriends of brothers can enjoy hanging out at the house.

A space where brothers can feel proud to say they live there.

4. Contribute a little bit each and every day towards improving our Band of Brothers.

Take out the trash that's not yours. Help tutor a brother struggling with a course you've taken already. Share a meal with other brothers from time to time.

Although they don't seem worth it or seem like they matter, if you do the little things, you and your fraternity will build camaraderie over time.

Talk about the fraternity daily and suggest at least one new idea every month. 

Because without a constant circulation of new ideas, we stagnate as a chapter.

I understand that college students have many commitments, but if you take the time to create at least one new idea every month, then you are doing your role as a brother.

Whether you bring this up at chapter or suggest it to another brother is irrelevant. As long as you are talking about the fraternity in your daily life, then you're keeping yourself stimulated in what you're doing with the chapter.

And that's honestly what's going to lead you to being happy in the fraternity you're in. When you are constantly seeking improvement as an organization and more importantly as individuals, fraternity will have done its job.

Understand the ultimate point of a fraternity: to shape each other and make ourselves the best men we can be.

If all a man has is his alone time, then he’s not going to be rounded. He’s not going to have people who can warn him about things. He’s not going to have people who challenge him to be a better man, and I don’t think he’s going to be what somebody calls a 360 Man — a fully orbed man. A fully developed man.
— Stephen Mansfield, Art of Charm Podcast