Two types of jobs

I think there's two types of jobs: Survival Jobs and Thriving Jobs.

Early in your career, survival jobs are tempting. It's so much more direct to see the effect of a couple more dollars of hourly pay. I mean $15/hr sounds way better than $10/hr. But if the $15/hr job is a job you don't enjoy and offers no career progression, then it's worth considering spending your time elsewhere.

If there's an amazing opportunity to work with someone you really admire up close, but it only pays $10/hr, is it worth it?

Absolutely, yes.

This is an example of a thriving job. The value of a thriving job is more than it's upfront monetary amount. It has other values such as:

  1. Mentorship
  2. Access to a larger network of people (and opportunities)
  3. Cooler stories to tell and experience
  4. A higher sense of fulfillment and purpose

So yes, you could earn that extra $5/hr and go home with $40 more in your pocket each work day. Or you could go home with excitement, growth, and satisfaction.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 24/56

  1. Fitness: 10/26 sessions completed this cycle
  2. YouTube: Still unfinished. Need to make time for this. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

Note: moving and the new job has been a total time suck. Love work and settling in my new place, but other things have to be put on hold.

Get More By Choosing 3

Every morning, I want you to choose 3 things.

The 3 priorities that you will seek to accomplish that day. Forget the news, social media, or YouTube. The morning is for you to set intention. Don't let distractions steal your attention.

When you set your 3 priorities, make sure it gets done.

You can accomplish more if you want to, after your 3 priorities are done. But choose the success of those 3 before anything else.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 22/56

  1. Fitness: Rest day. (10/26 sessions completed this cycle)
  2. YouTube: Still unfinished. Need to make time for this. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

Fulfillment Comes From Effort

Whatever you set your priorities as, make sure you put your full effort into them.

That's one piece of advice that will always lead to personal success. The way you define success should be about choosing the things you want to focus on for a certain period of time, and putting your full energy into them.

To some, this is doing really well in school.

To others, this is raising a baby and putting our all into it.

Whatever your priorities are, if you slack on them and just neglect them, you're going to feel really bad. Because it's something you want, and you're putting zero effort into it, you're going to put yourself into a spiral of non-actualization.

But if it's truly a priority to you mentally, it'll get done.

And when you put in the most amount of effort to get that result you really desire, whether that's a behavioral change, or a professional promotion, you'll feel satisfied that you put your all into the hunt. The meat will just be the icing on top.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 21/56

  1. Fitness: Rest day. (10/26 sessions completed this cycle)
  2. YouTube: Still unfinished. Need to make time for this. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

Note: Man this has gotten out of hand. Ever just feel out of it? I set all of these audacious goals, but starting my first week of work really changed my priorities. I want to practice self-acceptance, though so I can forgive myself for missing these few weeks as I adapt myself to the new job.

Less Complaining More Problem Solving

Complaining feels like we're getting stuff done.

Problem solving actually gets the stuff done.

And although complaining feels fun in the moment to build rapport with some people, it always makes people feel a little more negative. When you problem solve, you make people feel empowered -- you inspire those around you to believe that they can fix things.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 20/56

  1. Fitness: Deadlift day. Getting back into it. (10/26 sessions completed this cycle)
  2. YouTube: Still unfinished. Need to make time for this. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

Voluntary adversity

You can wait for as long a time as you want...

But there's never a right time for anything.

The conditions will never be perfect, your friends may not support it, and you will be scared to take action and just do it. That's why if you're making a big decision in your life (getting a dog, having a baby, or quitting a job to pursue something else, etc) the stars may never seem aligned.

To get what we want, we have to voluntarily invite adversity into our lives.

Because when we do invite those challenges, we invite those rewards as well.

Voluntary adversity will give you purpose and drive. Now may not be the right time (practically), but it might be the right time in the story you're crafting for yourself.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 19/56

  1. Fitness: Rest day. (9/26 sessions completed this cycle)
  2. YouTube: Still unfinished. Need to make time for this. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

Social Media Isn't The Problem

It's simply a tool.

A tool that when used for what we want it to do, is absolutely amazing. Whether it's keeping in touch with friends, sharing a major life announcement, or creating group photo albums to remember a trip, it does the job exceedingly well.

But we must think of social media as more than a tool. We must think of it as a living organism --like a tree-- as well.

A tree that while beautiful, needs pruning to make sure it serves us. To make sure it's branches don't get in the way of our windows. To make sure it doesn't block our view.

When we take care and start pruning our social media, we avoid all of the negatives while being able to enjoy more of the positives. We won't need a break from that.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 18/56

  1. Fitness: Rest day. (9/26 sessions completed this cycle)
  2. YouTube: Still unfinished. Need to make time for this. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

No Matter How Small

Seinfeld was only given a 2 episode pilot.

That's not a lot to make success happen.

But he took these 2 episodes seriously.

So seriously that he made those 2 episodes his launchpad to creating one of the most well-known series at 180 episodes in 9 seasons.

Want to know how? It's because it didn't matter where he started. But the fact that he took himself seriously where he did start.

You must do the same in your career. Pursue excellence early on, and excellence is what you'll achieve.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 17/56

  1. Fitness: Rest day. (9/32 sessions completed this cycle) Note: Although I love lifting weights, I'm making gym less of a priority. Therefore, I'm switching from a 4-day training schedule (MTThF) to 3 days a week (MWF). So the new cycle counter will be 9/26 sessions.
  2. YouTube: Still unfinished. Need to make time for this. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

If You're Unemployed, You Have This Advantage

When I was in college/unemployed, I didn't realize how much free time I had to pursue cool projects.

Your time as an unemployed young person is so valuable because people who are older than you have bought more things that they need to make more money to maintain. So they can't take a break and not earn money. They have to keep doing it.

And that's your advantage. Your time is worth less when you have no experience (or someone is footing your bill), so make sure to make the most of it.

Spend your time learning, doing interesting projects, and meeting interesting people. Whereas other people have money, you have time.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 16/56

  1. Fitness: Squat day at 245 for 3x8. (9/32 sessions completed this cycle)
  2. YouTube: First day of work left me drained 🙃. So still unfinished. (1/8 this cycle)
  3. Coding: Still in same spot as before w/ HTML and CSS.

Note: leaving out writing as a goal, since it's... you, know self-explanatory.

TO NICE GUYS: People Don't Want Nice, They Want Real

 Photo by  Olya Kuzovkina  on  Unsplash

Hey you, Nice Guy.

Stop pretending to be nice. It's not going to get you ahead in life. Neither will being a dick. You have to be real. Generally, people like others who are:

  1. Truly kind and compassionate for all people (ie not just selectively to attractive people)
  2. Has an overall positive outlook on life
  3. Unafraid to be vulnerable about sensitive topics every now and then
  4. Lives honestly and can communicate their feelings (without harming others)
  5. Can laugh at themselves and not be so self-hating
  6. Are happy with themselves

If you, Nice Guy, can learn these six things, you might have a chance at getting the things you think only "dicks" get. Yes, if you learn how to love yourself and you concern yourself with raising others up with you, then you will attract the people you want to attract in both relationships and friendships.

You see, the more you try to justify your failures because you're "too nice", the more you enshrine yourself in victim mentality. "Oh woe is me, the whole world doesn't support me because I'm too nice, guess you got to be a dick to get what you want out of life".

Except it isn't true. It's not because you're too nice. It's because you're too scared to grow. Your failures are because you're trying to be someone you're not. You're trying to be nice to people in order to get something back from them, not because you genuinely and sincerely want to see them succeed or benefit.

I think the greatest thing you can realize is that:

You don't have to change to make people like you.

But you do have to change your mindset.

You have to realize that it's not about "nice vs asshole". It's about real vs fake.

And let's face it: nice guys are fake guys.

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Evan's Goal Update - Day 15/56

  1. Writing: Writing for the 15th day in a row.
  2. Fitness: Rest day. (8/32 sessions completed this cycle)
  3. YouTube: Late on uploading but will finish by EOD!
  4. Coding: Trying to re-create the Google homepage in HTML and CSS. Not had much time recently... I had an ambitious goal to complete The Odin Project curriculum in 6 months, but I may put it lower on the priority list and make it 1 year.